In my family law practice, we talk about communicating and negotiating using what I call high-road techniques. I work in the Collaborative Divorce practice with many gifted, talented, and specially trained professionals who can help families get to the other side of a divorce with compassion, respect, and privacy, restructuring their family relationships while maintaining their ability to be a … [Read more...]
Articles from Camille Milner
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“Court is the Last Place You Want to Be,” Judge Michele Lowrance. Why a Judge Would Support a Different Way to Divorce?
Abraham Lincoln famously said, "Discourage litigation. Persuade your neighbors to compromise whenever you can. Point out to them how the nominal winner is often a real loser — in fees, expenses, and waste of time." Former Judge Michele Lowrance wrote The Good Karma Divorce. She has been a family lawyer, family court judge, was a child of divorce and went through a divorce herself. She shares … [Read more...]
Name the Emotion and You Will Be Better Able to Deal with It (and Protect Your Family from It)
Recently, Rich Heller, a counselor in New Rochelle, NY, did a podcast, with Dr. John Schinnerer, a psychologist with a Ph.D. from the University of California, Berkeley, and host of The Evolved Caveman podcast: Where Men Come to Evolve. Try to Identify and Name What You Are Feeling Rich Heller, New Rochelle, New York, counselor, recently interviewed Berkeley educated psychologist, Dr. John … [Read more...]
How to a Give Your Children a Happy Family (even if you have a Divorce)
Bruce Feiler wrote a book called, "The Secret of Happy Families." I think it might be helpful to the families I work with every day--families who have or are going through a divorce. In his book, Feiler offers several suggestions that are grounded in research, and what caught my attention was that, while he talks about applying these techniques, or hacks, if you want to call them that, to his … [Read more...]
“Dignity: The Key to a Lasting Divorce Settlement and Successful Co-Parenting”
I recently heard a profound statement by a divorce professional: they said, “Litigation simply teaches clients how to litigate, and once they learn that many of them do it over and over again until their children are grown.” Does anyone who divorces really want to go to court over and over again? Why do they do it? Often what we see in divorces is the same as what happens in international … [Read more...]
“(Un)Tangled:” A Great New Book by Deb Gilman, Ph.D., on Raising Emotionally Secure Children Despite a Divorce
(Un)Tangled: 52 Co-Parenting Habits to Build Trust, Reduce Conflict, and Raise Emotionally Secure Kids After Divorce (Un)Tangled: 52 Co-Parenting Habits by Dr. Gilman is a hands-on guide that helps divorced or divorcing parents raise emotionally secure kids. With 52 weekly lessons, it teaches parents to recognize triggers, understand the science behind their reactions, and replace harmful … [Read more...]
The Growing Trend of Gray Divorces is Here to Stay
Younger divorce rates have declined, but Baby Boomer divorces are continuing to climb In 2004, the New York Times had an article called, "The 37 Year Itch," which rolled out a fairly new phenomena researched at the National Center for Marriage and Family Research at Bowling Green University. This research showed that from 1990 to the present, that trend has continued and is expected to … [Read more...]
January is Child-Centered Divorce Month: Why and How to Discipline Your Child During and After Your Divorce
Rosalind Sedacca is a certified divorce coach who was the founder of the "Child-Centered Divorce Network". In a webcast presented by Chapter 2 Club, Rosalind sets out some of her coaching techniques and great suggestions for helping your children cope with divorce. As Sedacca reminds us, many authorities and studies have shown that it is the conflict of the divorcing parents rather than the … [Read more...]
January is National Child-Centered Divorce Month: What Will Your Children Say About Your Divorce?
Rosalind Sedacca is a certified divorce coach and founder of the "Child-Centered Divorce Network." Lisa Decker is a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst and the CEO and innovative mastermind behind several helpful, divorce-related sites including Divorce Money Matters and www.DivorceTownUSA.com. Lisa has previously been featured in a blog on this website, entitled: "How you Begin Your Divorce is … [Read more...]
Handling the Holidays for Children of Divorce: Memories of Matthew Perry
Anyone who ever watched the fan favorite sitcom, "Friends," probably loved Matthew Perry's character, Chandler Bing. The world was saddened to learn that, despite all his work to overcome his addictions, the health issues he had developed as a result of them cost him his life on October 28 of this year. His work in helping those with addictions will be his legacy long after the end of his … [Read more...]
