Recently, because of hearing how the death of Kobe Bryant is affecting a lot of people (some who didn't even know him personally), Dr. Daniel Amen, a renown neuropsychiatrist, recently wrote an article about how grief can hijack our brain and send us into our primal fight or flight response, which renders us unable to process information effectively. While a divorce doesn't seem, on its face, that … [Read more...]
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Child-Centered Divorce Awareness Month is Ending, But Let’s NOT Forget the Children the Rest of the Year
January is Child-Centered Divorce Awareness Month. January is ending, but just because the month is ending, that's no reason to go back to business as usual. Collaborative Divorce is trending nationwide, and, for that matter, around the world. This week, Collaborative Divorce was featured on a morning news show in Connecticut. Jill Bicks, a Family Attorney with Pullman & Comley, explains … [Read more...]
January is Child-Centered Divorce Awareness Month: If You Must Divorce How Collaborative Divorce Protects Your Children
January is Child-Centered Divorce Awareness Month. I vividly remember the day that I walked into my grandparents' kitchen and heard them talking about divorce being their only option. I ran out into the yard and cried, not really knowing, as a five-year-old child, what divorce was, but knowing that it was bad. I knew that, while my young parents worked each day, these two grandparents took … [Read more...]
The Collaborative Divorce Process helps you avoid the “Four Horsemen” of Mutual Destruction in Divorce
The "Four Horsemen" is a Biblical term, which is sometimes used in our modern day vernacular to mean something destructive. In divorce and family law cases, one of the greatest challenges we face in negotiations is that people in close relationships often treat each other less kindly during negotiations than they would if they were negotiating with complete strangers. Why? Because … [Read more...]
A Long, Expensive, and Continuing Saga: Celebrities Who Died Without A Will
I have written before about the sad loss that families and estates suffer when a person dies without a Will. In August, 2018, Aretha Franklin, the Queen of Soul, died, surprisingly, without a Will to determine how her $80 million estate would be divided. And last I heard, the drama surrounding the distribution of her estate is still going on. But she is not the only celebrity, who probably … [Read more...]
Tools Available for Children Going Through Divorce–January is Child-Centered Divorce Awareness Month
Parents going through divorce often ask me about resources available to help their children. Here are a few resources that my clients have found beneficial when they and their family are going through divorce. Sesame Street--The Committe for Children has been a resource for all the years since Sesame Street became a part of our culture. It is no wonder that they are leaders in getting helpful … [Read more...]
January is Child-Centered Divorce Awareness Month: Books for You and Your Children To Thrive Through Divorce
As most of my time for the past 35 years has been spent helping families going through divorce, including parents, step-parents, children, grandparents and extended families, I have an opportunity to read and review countless books on the subject. Here are just a few that I have read or had recommended to me that might be of interest to you or someone you know going through, considering going … [Read more...]
January is Child-Centered Divorce Awareness Month
Do Children of Divorce Need Counseling? In my practice, I regularly suggest counseling for the children of parents in conflict because, when the parents are so embroiled in their own conflict or pain, they are sometimes unable to recognize their children's emotional needs in the way that they need to. When any of us are in deep conflict or pain, we revert to our more primal reactions without … [Read more...]
Getting “Unstuck” from the Emotions of Divorce
It is so easy to get stuck in the emotions of divorce or other loss, whether it be the death of a loved one or even a position in life, like loss of a job. Dr. Daniel Amen of the Amen Clinics, who has done significant work on brain studies that have resulted in the SPECT brain technology that has helped with Traumatic Brain Injuries, explains that getting "stuck" in an emotion is a result of … [Read more...]
Divorce Rate Down in 2019
Terry Gaspard, an MSW, LICSW, is a family therapist who regularly blogs about family law matters. She said in her blog, "The Changing Dynamics of Marriage: Statistics for 2019," that she recently attended the National Association for Relationship and Marriage Education Summit, where she heard a presentation by Dr. Scott Stanley, a psychological professor with the University of Denver. Dr. … [Read more...]
