Suggested Reading
These are just a few of the books that my clients have found helpful:
For Adults:
- “Meeting Your Interests: Collaborative Law and Other Options for Dispute Resolution,” by the Denton County Collaborative Professionals
- “If Divorce is a Game, These are the Rules: 8 Rules for Thriving Before, During and After Divorce,” by Honoree Corder
- “The Successful Single Mom,” by Honoree Corder
- “The Successful Single Dad,” by Honoree Corder
- “Coming Apart: Why Relationships End and How to Live Through the Ending of Yours,” by Daphne Rose Kingma
- “The Ten Things to Do When Your Life Falls Apart,” by Daphne Rose Kingma
- “The Good Karma Divorce: Avoid Litigation, Turn Negative Emotions into Positive Actions, and Get On with the Rest of Your Life,” by Judge Michele Lowrance
- “The Good Divorce,” by Constance Ahrons, a book about how to eventually turn a very sad event into a new and positive relationship, published in 1998, but still timely
- “Storms Can’t Hurt the Sky: A Buddhist Path Through Divorce,” Gabriel Cohen
- “It’s All Your Fault: 12 Tips for Managing People Who Blame Others for Everything,” by William Eddy
- “BIFF: Quick Responses to High Conflict People, Their Personal Attacks, Hostile Email, and Social Media Meltdown,” by William Eddy
- “Getting to Yes,” by Fisher and Ury, a book about effective negotiation
- “The Power of a Positive No,” by William Ury
- “High Conflict Personalities in Legal Disputes,” by William Eddy
- “Stop Walking on Eggshells: Taking Your Life Back When Someone You Care About Has Borderline Personality Disorder,” by Mason and Kreger
- “So, What’s Your Proposal: Shifting High-Conflict People from Blaming to Problem Solving in 30 Seconds,” by William Eddy
- “Splitting: Protecting Yourself While Divorcing a Borderline or Narcissist,” by William Eddy
- “The Custody Revolution: The Motherhood Myth and the Father Factor,” by Richard Warshak, a book about creative ways to structure parenting plans that benefit children
- “Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus,” by John Gray, Ph.D., a book about the differences between men and women and how best to effectively deal with the opposite sex in negotiations and life
- “The Five Love Languages,” by Gary Chapman, a book about emotional languages and information that is helpful to try to save your marriage or effectively communicate and negotiate if your marriage is ending by understanding what is meaningful to the other member of the relationship
- “Powerful Non-Defensive Communication,” by Sharon Ellison
- “Beyond Reason: Using Your Emotions to Negotiate,” by Daniel Shapiro & Roger Fisher
- “Difficult Conversations: How to Discuss What Matters Most,” by Stone, Patton, Heen & Fisher
- “Crucial Conversations,” by Patterson and Greeny
- “Difficult Questions Kids Ask (and Are Afraid to Ask) About Divorce,” by Schneider and Zuckerberg
- “The Co-Parenting Survival Guide,” by Elizabeth Thayer, Ph.D.
For Teens and Children
- “Meet Max Learning about Divorce from a Bassett Hound’s Perspective,” by Jennifer Leister
- “It’s Not Your Fault, KoKo Bear,” by Vicki Lansky
- “Divorce is Not the End of the World: Zoe’s and Evan’s Coping Guide for Kids,” by Zoe Stern
- “The Divorce Help Book for Teens,” by Cynthia McGregor
- “Standing on My Own Two Feet: A Child’s Affirmation of Love in the Midst of Divorce,” by Tamara Schmitz
Online Articles of Interest:
Grading the Negotiation Skills of Congress
Marriage Economy: I Couldn’t Afford To Get Divorced
‘Friendly’ divorce movement gains ground – The Christian Science Monitor
Bringing harmony to divorce – The NY Times
Collaborating On Divorce – Forbes.Com
The Benefits of a Collaborative Divorce – Parents Magazine Online
Related Websites
- Denton County Collaborative Professionals, Collaborative Divorce of Denton County
- Collaborative Divorce Texas, formerly The Collaborative Law Institute of Texas, www.collaborativedivorcetexas.com
- The International Academy of Collaborative Professionals, www.collaborativepractice.com
- New Paradigm Training – Interdisciplinary Collaborative Divorce Training www.newparadigmtraining.com/
- The Denton County Bar Association, www.dentonbar.com
- The Denton County Website, www.dentoncounty.gov
- The Association of Family and Conciliation Courts, www.afccnet.org
- The Family Resource Center of North Texas, www.dfrc.org
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Published Papers
- Collaborative Law in 100 Years (IACP paper)
- Debunking the Myths of Collaborative Law
- Fine Wine on a Beer Budget
- How to Run Your Hamburger Stand OR Your Collaborative Practice (2005)
- Justice vs. Peace: A Reconciliation Paper (Oct 2008)
Podcast Episodes
- Rick Kahler
- Three Rivers Collaborative Divorce
- Darcy Loveless
- Lynette Kim
- Dr. Deborah Gilman
- Arvind Ethan David and Janine Berridge
- Brenda Bridges
- Andrea Vacca
- Amy Tyson
- Lisa Zeiderman
- Sarah Armstrong
- Get to Know Camille
- A Better Way to Divorce with John Susko
- Jay Maymi Show
Article Archive
Every article from the Milner Law blog, newest first.
- What is Mediation and What are the Advantages and Disadvantages of Mediation?
- “Fund YOUR Child’s College Education, NOT Your Attorney’s Child’s Education” Quote from a Family Court Judge
- “First, Do No Harm” – How Can You Achieve a Quality Divorce Settlement?
- Breaking Up is Hard To Do, Pt. 2: Finding the Right Counselor
- Breaking Up is Hard to Do, Pt. 1: Why Do I Feel So Overwhelmed?
- The Role of Listening and Asking Questions in Divorce, Pt. 2: The Crucible
- What’s the Role of Listening and Asking Questions in a Divorce? Pt. 1
- The Dangers of Writing an “Online” Will
- Writing Your Own Divorce Story, Pt. 2.
- Writing Your Own Divorce Story, Pt. 1
- Coronavirus Fears and the Gray Divorce, Pt. 2: What is a Gray Divorce?
- Coronavirus Fears and the Gray Divorce, Pt. 1
- Your Children’s Financial Literacy May Determine If They Get Divorced
- Collaborative Divorce Prevents Emotional Incontinence
- Coping as Couples and Families During Coronavirus
- Five Financial Tasks Your Should Tackle Immediately*
- Your Living Will: End-of-Life Documents as Recommended by Dr. Magan Ranney on MSNBC
- Writing Your Will in the Time of Coronavirus
- Possession and Parenting Time During the Coronavirus Pandemic
- Talking to Your Children About Coronavirus
- What About Spring Break During the Coronavirus?
- Coronavirus Update and the Power of Zoom Video Conferencing
- Why Choose A Credentialed Collaborative Divorce Lawyer?
- Your (and Your Spouse’s) Financial Philosophy Often Determine Whether You Get a Divorce, Pt. 1
- Why a Collaborative Divorce Will Help You Succeed in a Second Marriage
- To CEOs and Other Corporate Executives: For Privacy in Divorce, Collaborative Divorce is Your Best Option
- How a Loss (like Divorce) Affects Our Brain and How to Get Better
- Child-Centered Divorce Awareness Month is Ending, But Let’s NOT Forget the Children the Rest of the Year
- January is Child-Centered Divorce Awareness Month: If You Must Divorce How Collaborative Divorce Protects Your Children
- The Collaborative Divorce Process helps you avoid the “Four Horsemen” of Mutual Destruction in Divorce
- A Long, Expensive, and Continuing Saga: Celebrities Who Died Without A Will
- Tools Available for Children Going Through Divorce – January is Child-Centered Divorce Awareness Month
- Getting “Unstuck” from the Emotions of Divorce
- Divorce Rate Down in 2019
- Collaborative Divorce – The Opportunity to Discern
- How to Talk About a Pre-Nuptial Agreement: Just Ask Amelia Earhart
- Pre-Nuptial Agreements and Your Future Marriage
- “At Peace: Choosing a Good Death After a Long Life,” a book by Samuel Harrington, M.D.
- Divorcing Like Adults
- What Will Happen to Our Retirement in Our Divorce? And Why Do I need a Retirement Benefits Attorney?
- Separated Parents Can Misconstrue Children’s Behavior
- Ebby Halliday – The Modern American Woman
- High Conflict Personalities & TV News Murders
- Ashley Madison… A Tragedy?
- Rituals for Divorce
- Counselors and Ministers Recommend Collaborative Law
