The “Gray Divorce” (people over 50 divorcing) has become so common that it has begun to draw much attention. Unfortunately, there is one group of people who are affected by the gray divorce that has not gotten attention. The Adult Children of Divorce have long been the silent sufferers when their parents divorce. There are many books and resources available for divorcing couples with young … [Read more...]
Divorce: The Death of Your Relationship, Part 2; Mourning to Give You Rebirth After Your Divorce
Profound Thoughts About Divorce from Moving Forward: An Ancient Divorce Ritual for the Modern World, by Marilyn Beloff, Ph.D. “In Israel, the only way to obtain a complete legal divorce and to be able to remarry within the Jewish faith was through participation in the ancient ritual of divorce, the Get, as legislated in Jewish law.” (p. 18). BookBaby. Kindle Edition. “She [the person having … [Read more...]
Divorce: The Death of Your Relationship, Part 1; Why Not Acknowledge It as a Death?
Profound Thoughts About Divorce from Moving Forward: An Ancient Divorce Ritual for the Modern World, by Marilyn Beloff, Ph.D. My tears flowed freely as I finally began to experience the death of my marriage and the death of the dream; the pain was palpable and no less than that experienced at the death of a loved one. (p. 11). BookBaby. Kindle Edition. Neither….civil law nor counseling had … [Read more...]
“How You Start Your Divorce is Likely How You are Going to End It” Lisa Decker, CDFA
Lisa Decker is a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst in Georgia and the CEO and Founder of "Divorce Money Matters" and "Divorce Town USA." She was recently featured on Rosalind Sedacca's podcast entitled, "Fund YOUR child's education, not your attorney's child's education." Decker suggests that potential divorce clients consider the following questions: 1. What are different ways to … [Read more...]
Separating Gently, A Ritual for Divorce
Divorcing Clients frequently comment on the how, even when there is an agreement, the Court finalization ceremony feels cold and empty of compassion. The clients who attend the five or so minute finalization proceeding in Court comment that the process leaves them feeling like something is unfinished. And the ones who do not attend the Court proceeding are not even aware of when the … [Read more...]
American Bar Association Article Reports 50,000 Collaborative Divorce Cases Completed
While many lawyers, counselors, financial professionals and judges are familiar with and support Collaborative Divorce, one of the greatest challenges continues to be informing the public that they have options other than litigating their divorce in court. Pauline Tesler, one of the pioneers of the out-of-court option known as Collaborative Divorce recently authored an article for the American … [Read more...]
Collaborative Divorce is Becoming the Choice of Informed Clients
Around the world, and especially with clients who are informed and want to protect their families, Collaborative Divorce is becoming the Choice of Informed and Insightful Clients. After practicing law for nearly 40 years, with my focus primarily in the family law arena, I have seen a sea change in couple's thinking. I guess, after doing a large number of successful Collaborative Divorce cases … [Read more...]
Divorce with Special Needs Children–Collaborative Divorce is the Better Option
April is "Autism Acceptance Month." Prior to 2021, this acknowledgement was called "Autism Awareness Month," but as we have begun to learn more about autism and what it means to be "on the spectrum" of autism, we have learned that being on that spectrum is like a rainbow--there are many variations of abilities and inabilities, challenges and yet special gifts that people on the spectrum bring … [Read more...]
How Do You Tell the Children About Your Divorce?
"How to tell your children about your divorce?" is one of the toughest questions parents will ever face. When I was a little girl, I walked in from the yard into my grandparents' kitchen and overheard one of them say, "Maybe we should get a divorce." I was lucky--it was my grandparents, not my parents, so even if they got a divorce, I was able to go home each night to an intact family unit. … [Read more...]
Do You Want an Attorney Who is a Problem-Solver or Trouble Maker? Ask Abraham Lincoln
Abraham Lincoln said: "Discourage litigation. Persuade your neighbors to compromise whenever you can. Point out to them how the nominal winner is often a real loser--in fees, expenses, and a waste of time. As a peacemaker the lawyer has a superior opportunity of being a good man. There will still be business enough." Do you want an attorney who is a problem-solver or a trouble-maker? That … [Read more...]
