Anyone who ever watched the fan favorite sitcom, "Friends," probably loved Matthew Perry's character, Chandler Bing. The world was saddened to learn that, despite all his work to overcome his addictions, the health issues he had developed as a result of them cost him his life on October 28 of this year. His work in helping those with addictions will be his legacy long after the end of his … [Read more...]
Why Pre-Nups are Not Just for the Rich
Everyone who marries needs a Pre-Marital Agreement (also known as a Pre-Nup) whether they are old or young, whether they are rich or poor. One lady (in the podcast included in this article from CNN) states that a Pre-Marital/Pre-Nup Agreement is simply insurance for what might go wrong in a marriage. She says it does not mean that either party expects their marriage to fail, but just like … [Read more...]
Child-Centered Divorce Month: Don’t Forget About the ADULT Children, Part 2
In Part 1 of this series, I said I was wondering this past week: why is January Child-Centered Divorce Month? I suspect it is because there are so many divorces filed in January. The parents feel like they have gotten (themselves and their children) through the holidays but by January, they feel they just have to move on from a marriage that is no longer working for them. Some very … [Read more...]
Child-Centered Divorce Month: Don’t Forget About the ADULT Children, Part 1
January is Child-Centered Divorce Month. I was wondering this past week: why is January Child-Centered Divorce Month? I suspect it is because there are so many divorces filed in January. The parents feel like they have gotten (themselves and their children) through the holidays but by January, they feel they just have to move on from a marriage that is no longer working for … [Read more...]
Pandemic Causing Surge in Divorces, Too
The American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers has completed a study from attorneys across the nation that show not only an increase in divorces resulting from the Covid pandemic, but even more alarming is that clients' have very little patience. Everyone's patience has been tested through the 2019 forward as the world has suffered through the first worldwide pandemic in over 100 years. It is not … [Read more...]
Using “The Financial Wisdom of Scrooge” in Divorce, Pt. 2
In Part One of this series, we talked about Money Scripts – how, when we are children and cannot fully understand what we are seeing in the adults around us, we pick up partial information and that often becomes our “money script,” (what we believe about money) in our adult lives. Unfortunately, like Scrooge, sometimes our money scripts can imprison us, whether we are single or in a … [Read more...]
Using “The Financial Wisdom of Scrooge” in Divorce, Pt. 1
“Scrooge was a miser, to begin with. There is no doubt whatever about that.” (from “The Financial Wisdom of Ebenezer Scrooge”) “Marley was dead, to begin with. There is no doubt whatever about that.” (from “A Christmas Carol by Charles Dickens”) We typically associate Scrooge and “A Christmas Carol,” with Christmas, right? But just like Scrooge committed to becoming a … [Read more...]
“Home Will Never Be the Same Again: A Guide for Adult Children of Gray Divorce,” a new book by Carol Hughes, Ph.D.
The “Gray Divorce” (people over 50 divorcing) has become so common that it has begun to draw much attention. Unfortunately, there is one group of people who are affected by the gray divorce that has not gotten attention. The Adult Children of Divorce have long been the silent sufferers when their parents divorce. There are many books and resources available for divorcing couples … [Read more...]
Divorce: The Death of Your Relationship, Part 2; Mourning to Give You Rebirth After Your Divorce
Profound Thoughts About Divorce from Moving Forward: An Ancient Divorce Ritual for the Modern World, by Marilyn Beloff, Ph.D. “In Israel, the only way to obtain a complete legal divorce and to be able to remarry within the Jewish faith was through participation in the ancient ritual of divorce, the Get, as legislated in Jewish law.” (p. 18). BookBaby. Kindle Edition. “She [the person having … [Read more...]
Divorce: The Death of Your Relationship, Part 1; Why Not Acknowledge It as a Death?
Profound Thoughts About Divorce from Moving Forward: An Ancient Divorce Ritual for the Modern World, by Marilyn Beloff, Ph.D. My tears flowed freely as I finally began to experience the death of my marriage and the death of the dream; the pain was palpable and no less than that experienced at the death of a loved one. (p. 11). BookBaby. Kindle Edition. Neither… civil law nor counseling had … [Read more...]
