Many, if not most, of the clients that I see for a divorce have a similar problem – Different Financial Philosophies From Their Spouse. The sad thing is, many of them do not recognize this until they are on the brink of or in the middle of divorce.  If they had, individually, and as a couple, sought out financial literacy and education to uncover what THEIR Financial Philosophy was BEFORE … [Read more...]

There are many reasons to opt for a Collaborative Divorce if you must divorce. One of the rarely considered reasons is how having a Collaborative Divorce will help you in a second or subsequent marriage.  I recently had lunch with someone who is contemplating remarrying, and that person said, “Why must it (a subsequent marriage) so complicated?”  They were talking about the … [Read more...]

For Corporate CEOs and other High-Ranking Corporate Executives, Privacy is usually their highest priority in their divorce for a number of reasons: If their deposition is taken or corporate records are subpeonaed, that could compromise their company secrets, intellectual property, and send panic through the company ranks that something is “coming down” that will adversely affect the company;If … [Read more...]

Recently, because of hearing how the death of Kobe Bryant is affecting a lot of people (some who didn’t even know him personally), Dr. Daniel Amen, a renown neuropsychiatrist, recently wrote an article about how grief can hijack our brain and send us into our primal fight or flight response, which renders us unable to process information effectively.  While a divorce doesn’t seem, on its … [Read more...]

January is Child-Centered Divorce Awareness Month.  January is ending, but just because the month is ending, that’s no reason to go back to business as usual. Collaborative Divorce is trending nationwide, and, for that matter, around the world.  This week, Collaborative Divorce was featured on a morning news show in Connecticut. Jill Bicks, a Family Attorney with Pullman & Comley, … [Read more...]

January is Child-Centered Divorce Awareness Month. I vividly remember the day that I walked into my grandparents’ kitchen and heard them talking about divorce being their only option.  I ran out into the yard and cried, not really knowing, as a five-year-old child, what divorce was, but knowing that it was bad.  I knew that, while my young parents worked each day, these two … [Read more...]

The “Four Horsemen” is a Biblical term, which is sometimes used in our modern day vernacular to mean something destructive. In divorce and family law cases, one of the greatest challenges we face in negotiations is that people in close relationships often treat each other less kindly during negotiations than they would if they were negotiating with complete strangers.  Why?  Because … [Read more...]

I have written before about the sad loss that families and estates suffer when a person dies without a Will. In August, 2018, Aretha Franklin, the Queen of Soul, died, surprisingly, without a Will to determine how her $80 million estate would be divided.  And last I heard, the drama surrounding the distribution of her estate is still going on. But she is not the only celebrity, who … [Read more...]

Parents going through divorce often ask me about resources available to help their children. Here are a few resources that my clients have found beneficial when they and their family are going through divorce. Sesame Street – The Committe for Children has been a resource for all the years since Sesame Street became a part of our culture.  It is no wonder that they are leaders in getting … [Read more...]