10 Things to Remember When Telling the Children About Your Divorce I remember today, fifty years later, walking in on my grandparents when one said, “Well, maybe we should just get a divorce.” That is one of the most vivid memories of my childhood. I was very close to my grandparents, as they cared for me each day while my parents worked, but still they were JUST my grandparents. I can only … [Read more...]
How to Have an Emotionally Safe Divorce
The Emotional Safety of a Collaborative Divorce In reading an article in this morning’s newspaper, I found a quote that sets out one very good reason why the Collaborative Divorce Process is better for most families than litigation. Litigation is what a trial is called, either before a judge or before a jury, and the rules of the game in litigation are to present evidence as to why the other side … [Read more...]
Ebby Halliday – The Modern American Woman
Ebby Halliday and the Modern American Woman and Family I never met Ebby Halliday in person, but anyone who lives in North Texas certainly feels like they know her personally because her face and brand is so well-known. The success of her brand could be a lesson to anyone who studies marketing and branding. As I read the front page article about her today in the Dallas Morning News, I learned … [Read more...]
High Conflict Personalities & TV News Murders
High Conflict Personalities Can Boil Over Into Dangerous and Deadly Situations To begin, I must say I do not pretend to have answers for this problem, but I do know someone who does, and I want to share him and his wisdom with you. The recent on-air shootings of Alison Parker and Adam Ward, who were employees of WDBJ in Virginia, bring to the forefront what Bill Eddy of the High Conflict … [Read more...]
Ashley Madison… A Tragedy?
Can Anything Good Come From the Ashley Madison Tragedy? Ashley Madison is a tragedy--not because names have been revealed on a hacker's website, but because of what that security breach will do to relationships and families. However, I believe the answer to the question “Can Anything Good Come From The Ashley Madison Tragedy” may be “Yes.” In my experience in over thirty years as a divorce … [Read more...]
Do You Love Your Child Enough to Co-Parent with your Ex?
I have heard many clients say, “I would step in front of a train to save my children.” Most parents would die for their children, but, sadly, many are not willing to do the hard work to forge a good relationship with their ex for the sake of their children. What that says is that being nice to their ex may be harder for them than stepping in front of a moving train. And maybe it is, but my … [Read more...]
How to Divorce Without The Fight
When a family is facing a divorce, the last thing they need is a fight. Unfortunately, somewhere along the way, our society has brain-washed itself into believing that if you no longer love someone romantically you have to hate them and try to hurt them emotionally and financially. People going through divorce are flooded with negative emotions and fear, and as the data from the Project on … [Read more...]
Divorce is a Tragedy, but are Some Things Worse?
People commonly think that divorce lawyers offices are filled with clients who are very flippant and just rushing to get a divorce. This may be due in part to the celebrity divorces on the covers of magazines at every grocery store check-out line and the melodramatic television shows about this subject. But I can tell you, in thirty years of practicing family law and divorce, I have never seen … [Read more...]
Why is Collaborative Divorce Information Gathering Better than Discovery in Litigation?
Courts in Texas now require that each party in a marriage complete a sworn Inventory and Appraisement, disclosing the assets and liabilities in their marital estate. Clients often wonder if information gathering in a Collaborative Divorce is as good as or better than the Discovery Process in litigation. Cost Comparisons: In the litigation process, there is often an in-depth investigation of the … [Read more...]
Learning to Manage Emotions
Learning to Manage Emotions Is Important For Every Age Collaborative Divorce Helps Family Members Learn How to Deal with Their Emotions so They Heal Rather than Have Deeper, Lifelong Wounds The following is an article that was posted by Bill Eddy's www.HighConflictInstitute.com. Bill Eddy, who is both a social worker and a lawyer, has helped thousands of people worldwide learn how to manage … [Read more...]