Suggested Reading
These are just a few of the books that my clients have found helpful:
For Adults:
- “Meeting Your Interests: Collaborative Law and Other Options for Dispute Resolution,” by the Denton County Collaborative Professionals
- “If Divorce is a Game, These are the Rules: 8 Rules for Thriving Before, During and After Divorce,” by Honoree Corder
- “The Successful Single Mom,” by Honoree Corder
- “The Successful Single Dad,” by Honoree Corder
- “Coming Apart: Why Relationships End and How to Live Through the Ending of Yours,” by Daphne Rose Kingma
- “The Ten Things to Do When Your Life Falls Apart,” by Daphne Rose Kingma
- “The Good Karma Divorce: Avoid Litigation, Turn Negative Emotions into Positive Actions, and Get On with the Rest of Your Life,” by Judge Michele Lowrance
- “The Good Divorce,” by Constance Ahrons, a book about how to eventually turn a very sad event into a new and positive relationship, published in 1998, but still timely
- “Storms Can’t Hurt the Sky: A Buddhist Path Through Divorce,” Gabriel Cohen
- “It’s All Your Fault: 12 Tips for Managing People Who Blame Others for Everything,” by William Eddy
- “BIFF: Quick Responses to High Conflict People, Their Personal Attacks, Hostile Email, and Social Media Meltdown,” by William Eddy
- “Getting to Yes,” by Fisher and Ury, a book about effective negotiation
- “The Power of a Positive No,” by William Ury
- “High Conflict Personalities in Legal Disputes,” by William Eddy
- “Stop Walking on Eggshells: Taking Your Life Back When Someone You Care About Has Borderline Personality Disorder,” by Mason and Kreger
- “So, What’s Your Proposal: Shifting High-Conflict People from Blaming to Problem Solving in 30 Seconds,” by William Eddy
- “Splitting: Protecting Yourself While Divorcing a Borderline or Narcissist,” by William Eddy
- “The Custody Revolution: The Motherhood Myth and the Father Factor,” by Richard Warshak, a book about creative ways to structure parenting plans that benefit children
- “Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus,” by John Gray, Ph.D., a book about the differences between men and women and how best to effectively deal with the opposite sex in negotiations and life
- “The Five Love Languages,” by Gary Chapman, a book about emotional languages and information that is helpful to try to save your marriage or effectively communicate and negotiate if your marriage is ending by understanding what is meaningful to the other member of the relationship
- “Powerful Non-Defensive Communication,” by Sharon Ellison
- “Beyond Reason: Using Your Emotions to Negotiate,” by Daniel Shapiro & Roger Fisher
- “Difficult Conversations: How to Discuss What Matters Most,” by Stone, Patton, Heen & Fisher
- “Crucial Conversations,” by Patterson and Greeny
- “Difficult Questions Kids Ask (and Are Afraid to Ask) About Divorce,” by Schneider and Zuckerberg
- “The Co-Parenting Survival Guide,” by Elizabeth Thayer, Ph.D.
For Teens and Children
- “Meet Max Learning about Divorce from a Bassett Hound’s Perspective,” by Jennifer Leister
- “It’s Not Your Fault, KoKo Bear,” by Vicki Lansky
- “Divorce is Not the End of the World: Zoe’s and Evan’s Coping Guide for Kids,” by Zoe Stern
- “The Divorce Help Book for Teens,” by Cynthia McGregor
- “Standing on My Own Two Feet: A Child’s Affirmation of Love in the Midst of Divorce,” by Tamara Schmitz
Online Articles of Interest:
Grading the Negotiation Skills of Congress
Marriage Economy: I Couldn’t Afford To Get Divorced
‘Friendly’ divorce movement gains ground – The Christian Science Monitor
Bringing harmony to divorce – The NY Times
Collaborating On Divorce – Forbes.Com
The Benefits of a Collaborative Divorce – Parents Magazine Online
Related Websites
- Denton County Collaborative Professionals, https://collaborativedivorcedentoncounty.org/
- Collaborative Divorce Texas, formerly The Collaborative Law Institute of Texas, www.collaborativedivorcetexas.com
- The International Academy of Collaborative Professionals, www.collaborativepractice.com
- New Paradigm Training – Interdisciplinary Collaborative Divorce Training www.newparadigmtraining.com/
- The Denton County Bar Association, www.dentonbar.com
- The Denton County Website, www.dentoncounty.gov
- The Association of Family and Conciliation Courts, www.afccnet.org
- The Family Resource Center of North Texas, www.dfrc.org